Don’t believe the hype – just because a guy is shy does not mean he’ll be bad in bed, or won’t know how to treat you as a girlfriend. In fact, it’s the exact opposite. Shy guys make remarkable lovers simply because they appreciate you. They’re shy around you because they like you and sometimes your presence is overwhelmingly intimidating. Take it as a compliment! It’s cute, and endearing.
That said, it is important to be aware of how you can break the barriers of his shyness which contribute to less of those tense awkward silences, and more of than intimate connection-forming conversations. Here’s how you do it:
Understand that you’re the reason he’s shy
Unless he’s actually socially awkward, the chances are quite good that when he’s around his friends he’s himself because he’s comfortable. Around you, he’s afraid of making a bad impression or making you think less of him. You can overcome this obstacle by simply spending time with him and his friends.
Ask him questions
In the famous novel “How to win friends and influence people” one of the first rules for breaking social barriers is to ask people about themselves. Why? Well, who doesn’t love to talk about themselves with someone who is genuinely interested in what you’re saying. Furthermore, you can reveal some intimate details about your life that will make him feel comfortable with opening up.
Reassure your interest in him
Some guys are shy because they are trying to protect themselves. They refuse to wear their hearts on their sleeves because they think that there might be a chance that you are leading him on. Reassure his confidence by letting him know that you enjoy his company. You don’t actually have to say it, but you can suggest it through physical touch and eye contact which is usually more powerful than words anyway.
The secret is to be open, inviting and to encourage him to feel more confident. Once you break the silence or hammer past the tough exterior, you’ll likely be surprised to find a wonderful, intelligent and funny person just waiting on the inside to break free, Give them a chance, not all of us are open books.