If you find yourself drawn to the kind of sex life portrayed in the popular novel Fifty Shades of Grey, you may want to try a less intimidating version of it. Many women are finding themselves intrigued by the acts portrayed in the book and by adding things like light bondage, spanking, or blind folding, you can reap the benefits without the pain.
Bondage creates excitement by restraining your arms and letting your partner have all the control. Surrendering yourself in this way is very sexually gratifying and can lead to better and more pleasurable sex. Using things like his tie, or a pair of stockings to bind your wrists together, can add excitement and heighten each sensation.
Spanking is another act that can be taken from the practice of S and M. By having your lover lightly spank you during the act, you may find yourself instantly filled with raw animal like passion and during sex, even hard spanking can be pleasurable since nerve sensations are lessened during sex and pain tolerance increases. Another type of pain into pleasure S and M act is lightly biting the neck, ear, or having your partner pull your hair during sex. The scalp is packed with nerve endings and the quick tug of your hair can cause an amazing sensation.
You can also take turns blindfolding one another. This creates an anticipation of everything that you are about to experience. Many couples get distracted during sex but with blindfolding you will have no idea what is about to happen and will have no interruptions in paying attention to each and every sensation. The biggest reason that this is a turn on is because in order to do this, you are putting your complete and utter trust into the other person.
By trying one or all of these practices you will be more aware of the pleasure in it and will most likely add it into your normal sexual routine.