We often hear about ex lovers becoming stalkers when they’re lovers suddenly break up with them. We never think it would happen to us, until one day we realize that months, maybe years have gone by since we ended our last relationship and our ex is still hanging onto the past, hoping to patch things and get back together again.
They’re not exactly stalking you per se, rather they frequently remind you of their undying love for you and when they find out you’re dating someone new, they flip out into a jealous rage that leaves with a dilemma: On the one hand, you still care for them and wish to remain friends, however, their behavior has you thinking you should cut the ties before the whole situation explodes into a Fatal Attraction scenario. How do you handle your ex delicately?
Follow these tips:
Be honest – Avoid beating around the bush if your ex’s inability to except the truth is causing you to lose sleep at night. Reiterate why you broke up, and state that you are firm on your decision end the relationship. Say gently that you want to move forward, and you think your ex should start doing the same. Add that breakups are tough, but his/her behavior is only hurting both of you even more. Avoid saying things like, “I’ll always be there for you” or “There will always be a place for you in my heart” as these will not help the situation.
Cut ties – This may seem like an extreme approach, but it is the only way your ex will be able to deal with the reality of the breakup. Say that it is in both your best interests not to communicate until both of you has moved on with your lives. This mean blocking them from your email and all social media accounts.
Be the stronger person – If you are firm on your decision to end the relationship, then it is imperative that you remain strong, no matter the consequences. Your ex might pull some crazy stunts to get you back, but you must stick to decision no matter what. Let them go if you know it’s unhealthy for them to have you in their lives.