If you’ve clicked on this article, you’re probably wondering “What in the hell is an After Text?”

Well my friend, the After-Text is a very simple concept used by modern Don Juan’s all over the world. Essentially, it’s the closing message you want to send to your date or to a person of interest after you two have shared an epic encounter. The text accurately summarizes the mutual feelings, and starts the relations on a good note.

The after-text is a gesture of thoughtfulness which shows genuine interest and the charm of afterthought. Let’s say you go on a really great date where both of you were fully engaged, entertained and genuinely enjoying each other’s company. You parted ways on a high note, and left saying that you both definitely wanted to do it again. That’s it, the end of the night. You go home, and they’re still on your mind. You’re repeating those hilarious moments over and over in your head, and listening to “All You Need Is Love” by The Beatles on repeat. Then it occurs to you, you want to message them and tell them you had a great time.

Most dating advice columnists would advise against this because may make you seem too eager, however we think it depends on the situation. If you really get the impression that there is absolutely mutual interest, then go for it. Life is too short to waste on wondering whether or not to text someone and say you had a really great time. Say what you feel without fear of judgment.

The best bet for a great after-text would be something charming and funny that gently reminds the person that you’re thinking about them and that you make them feel happy. Don’t spill the beans about how you feel, play it cool and be subtle. Your entire purpose is to make the other person smile with the memories of your encounter.

Trust us, if you’re a man, woman love the after text generally because they are attracted to men who present and thoughtful. And while its less socially accepted for the woman to send the after-text, that doesn’t mean it can’t be done depending on the woman and her sense of humor.

Tips for the After-Text

–          Keep it short, simple, and sweet

–          Don’t say things like “I miss you already” or “I absolutely loved hanging out with you” Too soon.

–          Do refer to a funny moment or inside jokes that came out of your encounter

–          Use the smiley face emoticon “J” , never use “xoxo” – this makes you seem clingy

–          Wait at least a few hours until you last saw them to text

–          Be yourself!