All you have to do is turn on radio, and listen to the music on the airwaves. It’s usually always someone whaling on about sex or more commonly love lost or love gained. It’s no wonder that our popular culture is saturated with these types of messages because it’s stuff that we can identify with and relate to. Sometimes we’re in love, sometimes we’re angry at the dating world, and other times, we’re in the midst of what seem like the most heart-wrenching breakup tragedy.
If you fall in the latter category, then it’s important to start listening to those love songs on the radio with new ears, because the love you need is all within yourself. Here are few tips to help you get over unrequited love, and find yourself again:
Get to know yourself
It’s hard to let go of someone when you rely on them for your sense of self-worth. Your sense of worthiness must come from within – regardless of what anyone else has to say. This enables you to relate to people on your own terms and not let them define who you are and what your good for. In this stage, it’s important to focus your energies on your interests, hobbies and the people that matter the most to you. Spend time with yourself and learn to enjoy your own company.
Quit making excuses
Own your circumstance and choose to embrace it. When you justify your feelings, you are doing nothing but lying to yourself and making excuses. Saying things like, “I can’t get over him/her because they’re the best person I’ve ever met. I just can’t imagine my life without them” is not the a proactive way to look at letting go. Why? Because you’re not opening yourself up to opportunity to perhaps meeting others who could take you by surprise. Furthermore, you are justifying your pain and wallowing in the apathy of life.
Meet new people
The internet and the world of online dating are a great place to connect with others who might going through the exact feelings you are experiencing. The worst thing you can do is alienate yourself, rather you want to stay open to the possibility of connection and accept that the future will bring new into your life.
The most important question you can ask yourself during this time: What am I going to choose to do about my current situation?
It’s your responsibility. It does not depend on others.