You may think that it is a lot harder to forgive than it is to forget, but you can do both if you know the tricks. You know that forgiving someone is excusing their behavior but not forgetting that they did it. If you can’t forget it though then are you really forgiving them? Although you may have told them that you have forgiven them, the memory of their actions remains with you and creates a prejudice towards them. True forgiveness involves both forgiving and forgetting and this can be achieved by understanding your own feelings as well as those of the person who wronged you.
Sure you were wronged and you are angry, but you need to understand why you are angry. You are going to need to work on your emotions before you forgive someone or you will never be able to forget. If you rush to offer forgiveness before you have had the opportunity to vent your own frustrations it will be difficult for you to forget. You also need to understand the feelings of the person who offended you. You need them to tell you the reason they did what they did so that you can better understand their actions.
Don’t act on your feelings of anger give yourself the time you need to calm down first. It’s best to wait until both you and your partner are ready to speak about the conflict in a calm and rational manner. You have to really think about how much you value your relationship and then you will be able to justify forgiving and forgetting to yourself. Make sure that you listen to your partner’s apology and don’t just write it off as he or she is just saying it to placate you. They really mean it and you should really accept it.